We have something a little different for you today, the perfect post if you’re in the throes of planning your wedding. We’ve recently been chatting to Mia Taylor, a writer for highstylife.com, and after hearing all about her intimate wedding we wanted to share with you how to plan a perfect intimate wedding abroad. Keep reading to find out how Mia created her beautiful Summer wedding.
Over to Mia…
My married ol’ gals used to tell me that your wedding day is the single most beautiful day of your life. I used to think it was corny, but now that I’m a member of the married gal squad, I can say with absolute certainty that it truly was the most magical day ever. It was a mixture of excitement, unbridled happiness, and just a pinch of anxiety.
I do have to admit that on the very day of our wedding, all those concerns just seemed to wash away, and all the tiny details we obsessed about suddenly seemed irrelevant in comparison to the fact that we had finally got there, it was our day – the day when we said our forever I dos. We got to stand in front of our nearest friends and family and vow to love and make each other ecstatically happy for as long as we shall live. And it was the most wonderful feeling there is, believe me. If I had the chance, I would do it a thousand times over.
Now, when we talk about putting together an affair of this sort, I am going to be completely candid – the sense of responsibility and the level of commitment that go into it are enormous. You think about whether you will find everything you are looking for, whether there is enough time to execute all the plans. There were a million things to decide on and it seemed like there was very little time to do so. In order to do everything right and not let any little thing slip through my fingers, the golden rule I abided by was to write everything down and then to break all the ‘chores’ into categories, which was then followed by assigning every category to a particular month on the to-do list.
The first thing on the list was, of course, the venue! Like every girl, I had a clear vision of what I wanted the venue to be, and the mission of finding the perfect one was a truly demanding one indeed. We wanted it to be an open space and rustic On top of everything, we wanted it to be a smaller venue, as our wedding was a small wedding. Finally, we wished for the food to be amazing, but still within our budget limit, and what do you know, we pulled it off! The secret to negotiating your dream menu on a budget lies in two things – limited guest list and some bluffing. We negotiated a lot with the venue. As for the guest list, we kept it short and sweet to avoid additional costs.
When you’re your own wedding planner, you might have a great vision but can find yourself at sea when it comes to making it a reality. That’s why my Holy Grail was Pinterest. This platform didn’t only help me put together a vision board but offered and abundance of DIY ideas that saved me tons of money and time. I learned a lot and did a lot myself, with a helpful hand of good friends of course.
Get People Dancing
Next in line was our choice of band, which is actually as important as the venue, because what good are lovely decorations if people don’t end up having a great time, dancing it out, laughing, and just enjoying themselves? We were very lucky and prompt in our band search as we had acquaintances who were exquisite musicians and true artists. We wanted there to be something for everyone, so the set list basically included everything from Elvis to Rihanna and everyone had an amazing time. There was one little detail that helped keep everyone on their feet – flip-flops. Most female guests will attend a wedding wearing high-heel sandals. This is stylish, but not a friend of dancing, so when those dancing feet got sore, rescue was found in flip-flops and it’s one of the wedding ideas I’m most proud of.
Not Saying Yes, But Creating The Dress
Now, THE DRESS. For me, and I believe for every bride-to-be, this is the most important item on the checklist. I wanted something stunning, but also something that is in tune with my personality. Comfort should be on your list of priorities. You do not want to feel like you are walking in a confining personal floatation device. As a bride, you should be able to move with ease, dance, mingle. I decided to create my own dress, with a help of a low-key designer/seamstress. This decision came with both benefits and drawbacks. The designing process went swimmingly, but the execution had me anxious. When you find a seamstress who’s great but affordable, she is by default highly sought-after. She wouldn’t return my calls for days, didn’t respond to messages, and this had me highly worried. It turned out well in the end, but the lesson I learned from this is: When dealing with an indie designer, keep checking in – for your own sanity.
Summer weddings are amazing, but they’re also hot, and people rarely talk about this issue. On the day of my wedding it was scorching hot, and since it was an outdoor wedding and no AC to turn to for relief, we had to get creative. We opted for an open bar, but made sure that there was an abundance of icy lemonades and non-alcoholic cocktails available and ready. Make sure the restroom has products such as deodorant, tissues and body wipes in case your guests need to freshen up, and in such heat, they most certainly will. There was one other thing. We made sure there was a wooden box full of paper handheld fans to go around, and everyone really appreciated this gesture, because these little things can do wonders when it comes to heat control.
Calm Your Nerves
A month prior to your wedding, you should be as cool as a cucumber. Every major decision and detail should be ready by this point, and now it is time for some personal pampering. The week before, I treated myself to a facial, a spa day, a mani-pedi, went for an amazing relaxing massage to get rid of all the tension and just let everything wash away. It worked like a charm, because on the very day I felt amazing and refreshed. As for the makeup, it is mandatory that it is flawless, especially when we are talking about a summer wedding. Everyone is going to hug and kiss you, you will sweat, and that is why high-quality makeup is essential. An additional tip for all summer brides, always have blotting tissues with you to dab that excess oil and sweat, and err on the side of an updo. Romantic Hollywood waves may seem like a good and sophisticated idea in theory, but in practice, you will be melting within 15 minutes if you don’t put your hair up.
On the very day, do not forget to drink, eat, laugh and dance your heart out. It is important that you eat even if you don’t feel hungry, as you won’t want to faint. Whatever doesn’t go as planned, just roll with it and ignore it. It truly does not matter, you are married to your heart’s desire, so if something isn’t perfect – who cares, your marriage will be, and everyone is having a great time anyway.
Finally, no, I have not forgotten about my groom, but you have to admit, everything comes easier for them. All they have to do is pick the right suit, a great shirt and tie, shoes, belt and they are ready to walk down the aisle.
Thanks so much to Mia for sharing her wedding planning story. It’s always so lovely to hear other bride’s experiences, hopefully you’ve learnt a few tricks from Mia to make your special day run as smoothly as possible.
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